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Do your young sons pretend to be knights, fighting dragons and saving damsels?
My sons emerged from their bedroom one morning with blankets tied as capes and wielding swords. “We’ll protect you, Mommy,” they declared. My heart melted with this loving display of chivalry. Hopefully, they will make great husbands some day. But then I remembered incidents with others that have fallen far from the standard of chivalry –
…the boy who pushed in front of my girls at the door of the grocery store.
…the middle-aged man who let the door at the mall fall against me as I was trying to maneuver with my infant in his car seat.
…the young men who shouted obscenities at each other in the presence of me and my children.
Despite the fact that I wish I had the boldness to call them on the carpet, I do nothing. I thank my child and walk through the door.
Hollywood and the media have thrown conflicting ideas at men, and feminism has wielded its’ own mighty sword to deal a heavy blow to masculinity. In our hearts, though, we women want and need chivalry. Young girls may be embarrassed and teen girls may giggle, but a young man’s chivalry is noticed and appreciated.
What is chivalry? Chivalry is associated with the knightly virtues and honor shown to ladies of the court in the Middle Ages. It was not only a religious but also a social and moral code of conduct that promoted honor, courage, and service to others. Chivalry today is derived from the knightly code regarding treatment of women. Knights of the Middle Ages were expected, trained even, to demonstrate a “general gentleness and graciousness to all women.” (Wikipedia)
Is chivalry dead?
When was the last time a modern knight demonstrated a general graciousness to you, a lady? (Hopefully, we at least receive this graciousness from our husbands!)
When was the last time a man opened the door for you or offered to carry a heavy object for you?
Please don’t misunderstand. I am not wanting to malign or bash men. I know many chivalrous men, and I am married to one of them. I am simply noticing the trend in our society. Do you see it too?
Now, continue the discussion of how we can teach our sons this “general graciousness” with the next posts -- Six chivalrous deeds to teach your son and Is "hot" a compliment?
Have you noticed a trend away from chivalry in our culture? Do you think it is an increase in worldliness and ego-centrism or a lack of training?
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